Social media has become such an active part of our society.
Honestly the majority of the problems that my friends come to me with concerning their relationships have a pretty direct link to this very thing. So what is our obsession over Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and Twitter????
The thing I hate the most about these platforms, is how much they make it appear like our lives are all sunshine and rainbows. And don’t get me wrong, I’m just as much a part of this problem as the next guy. If you go onto my Instagram right now, you won’t find a picture of me during my latest breakdown (which was like just last week), face puffy and eyes red as can be. You will however, find me at my latest school tailgate smiling ear to ear with beer and friends. Amazing how that works right? So you can sit at home envious while scrolling through your phone thinking “Wow! Look at how fun her life is! What a great life! I wish I had that life!” In reality though, I’m scrolling through on my phone thinking the same exact thing about your page. Again this is something we all know, something that I’m consciously aware of, yet that I still fall victim to.
Snapchat has it’s own problems. While it does do the same thing with making our lives look much better than how they really are, my biggest problem is I guess the entire concept of it in general. Let me tell you why. Of course keep in mind that while I rant about all of these things, I still use them. I do my best to take little breaks and set guidelines for myself but I still enjoy them none the less. With Snapchat, I tend to find myself missing out on real life. The entire idea of it is to show off bits and pieces of the most exciting moments of your day/week/year, as they happen. The fault in this, is that when something visual and great begins to happen right in front of us, our thought process has now become “let me take out my phone to record and capture this moment to share with people.” While we’re busy doing that, we’re missing out on the actual experience itself. What good is showing people what you just saw if you really didn’t even see it through anything other than the screen you took the video on? Was not really being present in the moment worth some person you haven’t spoken to in 3 years seeing it then forgetting about it 5 minutes later? Why can it not just be a great personal memory that you get to share with people in real life when you see them? Cause we suck and we like to show off.
Now let’s talk about good ole’ Twitter. This application I can proudly say I have not allowed myself to give in to. In high school I had one for maybe a year and quickly learned that it was not for me. That whole “subtweeting” thing, yeah, that could get me into some trouble. Back in high school, it was acceptable to be immature and fairly irrational with our emotions. Getting into a fight with your significant other and then turning to Twitter for a quick anonymous rant about a certain someone who pissed you off, was not uncommon. Gee I wonder how this could ever cause problems. If only we could keep this little unhealthy habit in high school, unfortunately grown people still take part in this and that’s where I say no thank you.
So these little issues are not necessarily the things that are causing the big problems in relationships (okay wait maybe the subtweeting), but then so what is it most of the time? The danger, is where we find our partners focusing their attention.
“Why did you follow him? You don’t need more friends, I’m your friend.”
“Why did you like her picture? What about it was so great that caught your interest? Do you know her? Do you like her?”
“Why is he commenting on your pictures? Doesn’t he know you’re in a relationship? Do you know him? Do you like him?”
“Why are you posting pictures like this? Who’s attention are you trying to get?”
All of these situations are all too real. We as human beings tend to be a very possesive and jealous kind. I hear these complaints constantly from friends and have experienced quite a few of them myself also. So what is my final take on all of this?
IT IS NOT WORTH IT. AT THE END OF THE DAY, IF SOCIAL MEDIA IS MAKING YOU INSECURE, IT IS NOT WORTH IT. IF SOCIAL MEDIA IS CAUSING PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP, IT IS NOT WORTH IT. IF SOCIAL MEDIA IS KEEPING YOU FROM ACTIVIELY PARTICIPATING IN YOUR OWN LIFE, GUESS WHAT, IT’S NOT WORTH IT.
At the end of the day, you can delete every single account you’ve ever made and you will be just fine. The sun will continue to rise every morning, to set every night. You will be able to eat and drink just like you did before. You will still find yourself able to sleep at night. All that will come of it, is one less distraction during your days.
(Except maybe Facebook, I’d keep that because it makes it so easy to join other apps and such, they just take all your info from there it’s so easy!!! Hahaha!!)